Sadly, bullying is all too common in today's society, especially among children and teenagers.
The harsh reality is that bullying can happen anywhere; at school, at the park, and even among so-called friends.
It's every parent's worst nightmare to see their child fall victim to cruel bullies, so the onus is on us as parents to look out for signs of bullying and to make sure your child knows they can come to you if they need help.
The warning signs
A child who is bullied may experience mental, social, physical, academic, and even health issues.
Some of the signs you can look out for in a child to detect bullying may include:
- A reluctance to go to school: If your child suddenly no longer wants to go to school, that is a red flag to you as a parent. They may make up excuses for being ill or you may receive frequent calls from the school nurse to pick up your child early.
- Frequent headaches and stomachaches: My second-born daughter had excuses not to go to school, like frequent stomachaches and fussiness in the mornings. I sensed something was wrong and quickly discovered there were issues at school, so I changed her class.
- A change in friendship: This normally happens among teens and adolescents. Your teen may be reluctant to hang out with some friends. As a parent, it is good to connect with other parents so you can find out if there is one being left out at parties and gatherings.
- Troubled sleep: Bullying causes anxiety in children. This may lead to difficulties sleeping. Lack of focus or poor hygiene could also be signs that your child is being bullied.
- Uncharacteristic quietness: Your child may be more quiet than usual, wanting to be left alone, or spending a lot of time in their room. There might also be bursts of violence with their siblings or friends.
- Torn clothing and physical marks: You may notice torn clothes, swellings, bruises, and even blood spots. Talk to your child and don't pressure them to confide until they are ready.
- A victim stance: Your child may develop a victim stance, especially in cases where they lack skills in assertiveness and standing up for themselves. They may walk with their heads down, and be afraid to speak out. In this case, why not enroll your child in activities that have no competition, like martial arts? This will help your child learn self-confidence.
Be alert
Bullying is quite dangerous and, if taken to the extreme, can lead to suicide and other dire consequences. Look out for these signs in a child near you and take the necessary steps.